Destiny is a frequently used term that is often employed by many people to imply or indicate purpose and meaning in life. Destiny is a human-subjective construct that is quite discouraging for most people, because destiny is "always in the future", implying that we are striving for a better future... always on a quest to obtain our destiny in life, but never privilege enough to reach it. Destiny is a kind of mysterious unobtainable and constantly illusive "utopian dream", which can only be achieved once we leave the realm of this earthly plane... or at least, so we eagerly hope... because there isn't any "real" and "hard" facts that support this assumption.

Throughout human history the construct destiny surfaced in many forms and formats, mainly to instill hope for something better in the future and to make life a bit more bearable for us... maybe someday all this will go away and things will actually become much better. The most well known examples of how the construct of destiny can be manipulated to derail people and keep them of balance, is to be found in organized religion. The general idea is that all our present toiling, sufferings and frustrations is going to be worth it... eventually... ...one day... because, we will receive our "promised" reward. Providing that we serve the religion faithfully and well. However, the inherent manipulative power of the "term destiny", isn't restricted to religion alone, it appears in all spheres of life... from education to politics to economics and also noticeable in terms such as patriotism, "good" business man, admirable citizen, nationalism and the likes.

Unfortunately, the present common and general accepted meaning of destiny did gradually degenerate to something that "can't be obtained". When we use destiny in a travelling context; yes sure, we all agree... it can definitely be reached and it can serve as a sure and obtainable goal. But when we use destiny in a human life's context (i.e. umwelt), it is an unobtainable, illusive and mysterious goal... never to be reached and only to be hoped for or dreamt about.

It is true that destiny is a "place" in future, but it should NEVER be regarded as static, nor unobtainable. Geography and the physical time and space reality is mostly static (i.e. very slow changing), BUT the human-mind and umwelt isn't! Our umwelt is constantly changing; and because of that, our destiny is also changing accordingly. Destiny is obtainable and is an actual "place" that we all can "reach" - sometimes with great difficulty and plenty of lessons - but we all can reach our destiny... providing that we acknowledge the fact that human DESTINY is a continuous exploration and growing process, which steadily works towards an achievement within the parameters of a our unique beingness.

Question A difficult concept?
Not really! maybe the following "travelling example", will place the term destiny in a more understandable context...

Let's assume for the moment an individual, staying in Pretoria (Gauteng, South Africa) where s/he is reasonably happy and makes a decent living; deep down - in his/her psyche or inner being - s/he "knows" that there is much more to life that can be experienced and achieved, than merely staying in Pretoria (i.e. budding aspirations). S/he now has one of two choices...
  1. remains stationary in Pretoria - wondering and dreaming about something better - but reasonably happy within his/her present comfort zone, as maintained by "ignoring" or "suppressing" his/her budding aspirations, OR
  2. to rather "venture" from Pretoria and explore the many possible opportunities available in the rest of South Africa.
For argument sake, let's assume that s/he choose the latter (No 2) and "go for destiny". This choice implies that certain preparatory steps need to be taken, before s/he should take action. Such preparatory steps will differ widely from person to person and situation to situation, but essentially s/he should at least pay some attention to the following...
  • Determine one's present status in life, "Where am I at present and what do I already have?"
  • Specify one's aspiration in life, "Where do I want to be in future and what should my umwelt look like?"
  • Ascertain the "gap" between the present and future, "What resources do I have, and which resources do I lack?"
  • Identify possible alternatives and accompanied opportunities "What do I want/need, and where/how can I get hold of it?"
Let argue, that the individual decide that s/he need an environment with lots of water and a beautiful scenery. Based on environmental "research" (travelling books, magazines and pictures) s/he chooses to start moving in a southerly direction, because it seems that it would allow him/her the best opportunities to "reach" his/her envisioned "destiny" (i.e. the vivid image of water, mountain & beautiful scenery). The justification for his/her journey's "final direction" being...
  • in an easterly direction there is only lots of mountains,
  • to the west a desert and
  • north merely beautiful scenery and rivers.
In his/her mind's eye s/he has a vivid image of 'n big impressive mountain overlooking the sea; and south seems the best direction to pursue the "picture".

So the quest begins with the Vaal river as his/her "first destiny". On arriving in Parys, s/he start exploring the "environment" and compare it with the vivid mountain/sea image. After a while s/he realize that some of the criteria (vivid picture) is present, but a few things is still missing. Some more "research" follows, and s/he realize that southerly direction is still the best option, so the journey continues, because s/he "adjust/adapt" his/her "Vaal river destiny" to a "Gariepdam destiny", based on more refined information and "personal growth".

Arriving at the Gariepdam and staying there for a while, s/he still find some aspects missing from his/her "dream" and when learning of more possibilities and alternatives (which was impossible if s/he remained stationary in Pretoria), s/he realize that the journey still has continue, to yet "another destiny" further south... Cape Town.

Key Destiny (within beingness context) is not a predicted goal, nor a pre-determined destination... it is a "journey" or "quest" direction, which allows us to gradually grow and develop, as we steadily move down the "path" and closer to materialize our "vivid mental image" (i.e. our potential) into something real and tangible. As we learn, grow and develop as a unique human being, our destiny is constantly spiralling upwards... always in the same direction and always a little further and a little "higher".

Thus, destiny isn't something mysterious, in the stars, "hidden" or only accessible to a few privileged people or "chosen ones"; BUT something available to all of us and something that we can deliberately work towards... and obtain! Providing that we at least have a direction in life guided by our...
  • Vision Statement (i.e. WHERE do we want to be in future),
  • Mission Statement (i.e. WHAT are going to do, to get WHERE),
  • Value Statement (i.e. HOW are we going to implement the WHAT) and
  • Legacy Statement (i.e. our expected cumulation of WHERE, WHAT & HOW)
Key Destiny isn't a "specific" goal post in life, as per impression of most people. But it is a "growing and maturing" goalpost, that gradually lure us closer to become what we are suppose to become, and destined to become. DESTINY (in human spiritual terms) IS A DIRECTION OF GROWTH & DEVELOPMENT, NOT A FINAL DESTINATION or predetermined end goal.

Keep on reaching for what you want in life... never stop dreaming!

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